So there was a group of probably 8 of us that were all good friends in college. I've kept in touch with some more than others, but there are only three of us that are now married.. The one I knew she was pg right away because we have kept in touch via IM and have had the whole T-TTC thing in common. She's about 8 weeks now and while I am a little sad that she and i are not pg together, I am really happy for her..
But today ON MY WEDDING ANNIVERSARY.. the other married friend, who lives closer to me, decides to announce to me she is pg.. She told me she waited to tell me cuz she didn't want to make me sad. She is 17 weeks. She is due like 6 days after my 2nd EDD.. :( I am sad for me.. I'm not mad.. but I feel like she should have told me sooner... or at very least, if she didn't want to make me sad, she could have waited til a day that wasn't my anniversary..
On top of that, she told me TWICE in the IM conversation that i had with her to remember to HAVE FUN while TTC.. I just wanted to say.. yeah.. you try for 8 unsuccessful months only to get pregnant twice and lose two babies and see how fun it is..She told our other (pregnant) friend that she only tried for two months.. I'm sure it was fun for her.. Heck.. i probably had fun the first few months we tried.. not that i can even remember.. but really.. i promise you.. its NOT FUN anymore.. and it won't be fun once I do get pregnant and have almost a 50/50 chance of another m/c.. and have to give myself injections twice a day.. nope.. pretty sure thats not fun..
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3 comments:
I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so upset. People who don't have any experience with infertility aren't as sensitive about it. They just don't really understand how hard it is. My cousin lost a baby that she carried full term, and my younger (unmarried, not in a relationship teenager, you know, the kind that really piss off people who can't just get pregnant) delivered a healthy son at the same time. That cousin's sister was uncomfortable around my nephew for a really long time because he reminded her so much of the niece she'd lost.
Try to focus on the good things in your life, and be honest with her about your feelings. She just doesn't understand, so don't take it personally.
And more importantly...HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!! :)
Go hug your hubby and maybe have a little fun remembering your wedding night.
I am sorry to hear all of that. You seem like such a wonderful person and to have things like this not get to you is hard. I would make up for it tonight and throw on DHs favorite meal and put on the tiny lace in the drawer and make a night of it.
You sound like you have a strong marriage and that is going to be what gets you thru anything out there that comes your way. Keep your chin up. Your time is coming.
I'm sorry your friend said those crappy things to you. We tried for 10 months with no success and I wanted to punch anyone who told me to 'relax' or 'have fun' or 'stop worrying so much'. They just DO NOT understand b/c they have not been here before. Then we finally got pg on cycle 11 only to lose the baby. It all seems so unfair sometimes. Why do those of us who are so ready and willing to be good parents have to go through these struggles? I'm sorry that things were crappy on your anniversary. (((hugs))) Hang in there.
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